There are many different types of grief. Your grief can range from the simplicity of losing a favorite belonging to the death of a loved one. So, when is it appropriate to get help with grief?
This is a good question that I was asked recently. It can seem that the simplicity of losing a belonging does not warrant a discussion about grief. It also seems logical that when you lose a loved one to death that you should ask for help with grief.
So where is the rule book for this grief thing? How do we know when it is appropriate to get help with grief?
Getting help with grief
As human beings, we all perceive things with different levels of emotion. Think back to when you were a child. Losing a toy was a dramatic life event. You could be sad about it for days or even weeks. That did not change the fact that it was important to you and you grieved over it.
The same could be said for a job that you have had and liked for 20 years and then find out they are closing the business. Your forty years old and must start over. The grief is real and it’s a big deal!
What about losing a pet? How about finding out you have an autoimmune disease? These are just a few examples. Grief can come from many angles and no age is immune to its power.
The answer to getting help with grief.
Let’s go back to the original question. When is it appropriate to get help with grief?
The answer is, whenever you experience it and do not know how to process it.
Going through grief is a very individualized experience. As I illustrated above there can be a lot of factors. It all comes down to what your values are on a given topic and what you have lost within that set of values.
Losing a toy at 3 years old can truly create dramatic grief as much as the lost job for the 40-year-old. In the end, it truly boils down to what has happened to cause the grief and the level of challenge you have to overcome it.
If you feel like you need help with grief, then you probably do. There is no shame and no blame. We all walk a tough road and can use some assistance finding the light at the end of the tunnel.
If you would like to know more about how to get help with grief, please click here and start your road to a new fulfilled life!
Jeremy Sycks is a NLP Master Practitioner, NLP Trainer, and a Certified Life Coach specializing in Grief Coaching. Jeremy is the founder of the grief coaching program “How to Cope with the Loss of a Loved One.”